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Dear Viv: What can I do about my sexist brother?

On this week’s podcast, Viv discusses what to do when a sibling thinks that feminism is "unnecessary"

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By Viv Groskop on

DEAR VIV,

My brother, who works abroad and who I don’t see that often, recently came for a family meal. During this meal he expressed some very sexist opinions. I’m a feminist and believe in the equality of the sexes. He found out that I identified with the feminist label and sought to intensely question me on this – asking me why I was a feminist and proceeded to try to prove that feminism is unnecessary and, I quote, "only for lazy stupid women who want to moan about something – they just don’t work as hard as men, there are no barriers whatssoever to women – stop moaning and work as hard as men do". This questioning went on for nearly the whole meal.

I feel like I’m constantly having to justify why I’m a feminist and prove that I'm a "proper" feminist just because I identify with the label. 

How do you think I should respond to people like my brother? 

Side note — I’m nearly 10 years younger than my brother. I own my own home and run my own business. My brother is currently unemployed though he did go to university and I did not.

Thank you in advance for your thoughts.

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