Bruno Fernandes de Souza. Picture: Getty Images

OPINION

I murdered my ex and fed her to dogs, but dude, it was a mistake

Convicted murderer and Brazilian goalkeeper Bruno Fernandes de Souza doesn't seem to understand why people are so angry he's still playing football

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By Marisa Bate on

Did you hear the one about the Brazilian goalkeeper? This isn’t a joke, but it might as well be. 

A football player has been signed by Brazilian football team, Boa Esporte, despite the fact that he played a crucial role in his girlfriend’s murder. Bruno Fernandes de Souza served less than a third of his 22-year sentence for killing his former partner and the mother of his child, Eliza Samudio. Samudio went missing after she sued Fernandes de Souza for not paying child support in a high-profile case “that threatened a mooted big-money move to Milan”, the Guardian reported. In court, Ferndandes de Souza confessed he conspired with friends to torture and murder his ex-girlfriend, before  her body was fed to his dogs. 

But, hey, y'know, the show or the football match or the Hollywood film or some other stage that continues to prop up the crumbling male ego – utterly immune to how many times they’ve raped or been violent towards a woman – must go on.  And so, a football club was waiting with a contract and pen for the murderer as he ran out of jail and straight into the changing rooms. 

And why should you be punished for turning the mother of your child into dog meat? Dude, you should call Brock Turner’s dad. He’d understand

Yet, rest assured, I am not the only one who feels on the precipice of giving up on humanity. Sponsors pulled deals (dead, tortured ex-girlfriends don’t sell, apparently) and women’s groups have voiced concerns in a country that is one of deadliest places in the world to be a woman or a girl.  

However, before you dwell too much on Samudio and the hell she went through, or before you worry about her motherless child who will learn their dad is a murdering monster, let's take a minute and think about that murdering monster, because, in his own words:

“Dude, what happened, happened. I made a mistake, a serious one, but mistakes happens in life – I’m not a bad guy. People tried to bury my dream because of one mistake, but I asked God for forgiveness, so I’m carrying on with my career, dude. I’m starting over.”

Dude, we get it! Dude, we all make mistakes! And how unfair it would be to bury your dream, just because you buried a woman! Because women are, by and large, apart from maybe your mother or your sister, just mistakes; not human beings but just a mistake, certainly not something that should get in the way of your career!

And why should you be punished for turning the mother of your child into dog meat? Dude, you should call Brock Turner’s dad. He’d understand. He couldn’t get his head around that fact that his son was sentenced to three months in prison for a “20-minute mistake” either. And there are men all round the world who think like you and Brock’s dad and Brock; who think that a woman is simply a collection of body parts that should be fucked or beaten or tortured and torn apart by dogs.  

And after the tragic loss of Eliza Samudio's life and the impact on her family,  the next saddest thing here is that it’s all so textbook, so rudimentary:  privileged sportsman murders model girlfriend. Privileged sportsman doesn’t loose job because his job is removed entirely from his crime because his crime is so common and women aren’t as a valuable as the sporting/artistic genius he is imposing upon the world.

And, just for a minute, the idea of feeding your girlfriend to dogs because you don’t want to pay child support seems a bit extreme but then all you really need to do is jog your memory. Remember the American football player who punched his wife in the face in a lift, knocked her unconscious and then dragged her lifeless body out? That was pretty extreme to me. And hey – just replace sportsman with actor/director/MP/musician. Society the world over will ignore the murder of a women to preserve the dominance of male privilege.

And, now, when we’re slowly starting to call things out a bit louder, hold men a tiny bit more accountable, all it takes is a quick Hail Mary, a quicker prayer, a confession, a conversation with an American late night show host, and all is forgiven, because, dude, we all make mistakes, right?

@marisajbate

Bruno Fernandes de Souza. Picture: Getty Images
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