If you thought choosing what to wear every morning was tiring, prepare to feel exhausted. It appears the real sartorial conundrum we’re all facing is: what do we wear for our own funeral? US website Racked has posed the question, inspired by the Twitter hashtag #burymeinthis, usually accompanied by a picture of someone in an outfit they clearly enjoy. While this is obviously a joke, it has sparked a conversation about the type of thing people now ask to be buried in.
Racked spoke to Caleb Wilde, a funeral director, who said that while people used to want to be buried only in suits and dresses, there’s now a more laid-back approach: “This might mean a beloved sweater, the jersey of a favourite sports team, or even jeans,” says Wilde. “In other words, people dying today are buried in what you might call grave-casual.” Grave-casual! It’ll be a trend before you know it.
You might want to let your loved ones know exactly which outfit you want to wear, or they’ll be choosing for you
But, on a more serious note, Racked points out that burial rituals, in any culture, are actually for those left behind, rather than the deceased: “Choosing someone else’s burial clothing presents an opportunity for those still living to grieve, to pay homage to the kind of person the deceased was in life, and to honour the communities he or she was a part of.” In other words, you might want to let your loved ones know exactly which outfit you want to wear, or they’ll be choosing for you. After all, as Racked says, “There are very few occasions in a life that require this level of dress-up gravitas."