I really hope you can help.
My friend is having a Butler in the Buff at her hen do and I hate the idea. Her Hen do is a weekend break at a large house with around 15 other girls. I’ve already excused myself from the full weekend (I do not have the finances, as my boyfriend and I are saving for a deposit, we would quite like a holiday of our own this year and the wedding itself will be a one or two-night hotel stay). The Butler in the Buff is coming round to the house after the day's activities and before we head out to dinner. I already feel bad about not staying the whole weekend and now feel like I can’t say I will be leaving early, which I would have to, to skip the creepy and seedy Butlers in the Buffevent. Can I excuse myself for a walk around the city and meet them later for dinner? I really really don’t want to make scene on the hen weekend but I would hate for my boyfriend to be up to this sort of stuff at a stag and I really disagree with it (both on moral grounds as objectifying another person and also because it just makes me feel so gross and icky). What can I do?! Please can you share some of your sage advice!
I’m not a prude, it’s crude.
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