I recently had an almighty, irrevocable bust-up with a friend – I won’t go into details, but she has wronged me in several ways, almost lost me a lot of money and been incredibly selfish and rude. Worst of all, she considers herself the victim. A week ago I might have been willing to hear her perspective (I’m certainly no angel) but she really has behaved appallingly and been willing to sacrifice everything I hold dear, and I never want to see or speak to her again. But what do I do about our mutual friends?
Our friendship group is quite small, and mostly involves us hanging out in my friend’s flat. There’s usually a lot of booze involved, which is fun until you have no inhibitions and are really angry (we’ve had fights at these before). I don’t want to poison my friends against her because that seems unnecessarily bitchy, but I can’t emphasise how much I never want to see her or speak to her again.
Is there any way I can keep the friends who value me without giving them a ‘me or her’ ultimatum?
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