At the risk of sounding completely ungrateful and the epitome of ‘first world problems’, I need some advice on getting out of my ‘woe is me’ rut.
I have so much to be grateful for, a nice place to live, a nice boyfriend, a cool job, reasonably decent health…but all I can ever focus on is the negative.
I obsess about whether I’m more successful than my friends, (I was a high achiever at school), I torment myself about not being as thin as I was when I was 17 and instead of being happy for my friends that are getting married all I can focus on is the fact that I’m not engaged and that THEIR weddings are eating up MY holiday time.
I know all of these thoughts are unreasonable and the only person that can change them is me…but I simply can’t stop myself feeling this way. Some days are better than others and there are times when I can rationalise myself out of it…but quite frankly it’s exhausting and I know I’d be able to achieve so much more and ENJOY so much more that I have going for me if I wasn’t weighed down by all this negativity.
Please help, life is too short to feel like this and I want to be able to appreciate what I have.
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